TEN REASONS Why A Man Would Wife You!

We wanted to provide the TEN REASONS “Why A Man Would Wife You” based on the Monthly LIVE DISCUSSION we did for the month of November.  We decided to talk about this subject in particular because many women desire to be married and have found them settling just to get a ring.   Below are  “TEN REASONS”  we came up with as to why a man would make you his wife.  If you or someone you know can relate to this; then this is for you.  Please be sure to share these reasons with the women in your circle who can relate!

1     1.  Your attitude:  Are you happy and bubbly or bitter?  Bitter looks like complaining, comparing, and competing…  Choose to have a positive attitude even in the midst of a challenge or adversity!

2.  Your values: What do you stand for? What do you believe in?  Does anything go in any setting?  Are you a certain way in front of one group of people and then another way in front of another group of people?  Keep your values in being who you say you are in private and in public.

3.  Your confidence:  Do you like yourself?  Confidence refers to your physical appearance and more importantly your self-esteem.  Are you able to be yourself or do you hold back in fear that if he finds out who you really are, he won’t like you?  Most people prefer authenticity! If you are not comfortable with who you are then start working on how you would like to show up in the world. Write out your ideal self.  What type of things would you be doing, what type of things would you be saying or not saying and start being and doing what your ideal self would do.

4.  Your ability to control your emotions – Stop becoming emotionally hi-jacked (extremely emotional) over every little thing.  Practice being in control of your emotions regardless of your environment.  Don’t let any and everything get you in a place of discontentment or feeling discombobulated.

5.  Your ability to respect and honor him – this goes in a private and public setting.  Don’t challenge or rebut against him because you are right or you think you are right.  Don’t question or challenge his ability to be a man and make decisions.  This is an extreme turn off for a man and he will end a relationship on this alone.

6.  Your communication -what does your conversation sound like?  Do you ask questions to get to know who he really is or are you interested in how much money he makes and what he can do for you?   

Side Note:  Guys cannot stand when a women talks about work all the time or about things that are not going right in her life (negative/pessimistic talk).  Guys are not controversial; they hate drama and negativity especially from the women they are dating or married to.  Also; guys despise women with a gossiping tongue- so don’t do it!

7.  Jealous and insecurity are two of the greatest attraction killers.  If this is something you struggle with; ask God to help you overcome the spirit of jealousy and insecurity.  Oftentimes due to past relationships or life circumstances; women struggle in this area.  When you have an inability to trust your mate that greatly affects the relationship as a whole. 

Side Note:  In order to be secure and satisfied in a relationship; you first have to be secure and satisfied in your singleness.

8.  Your ability to spend time apart from him without having an anxiety attack.  It is ok to have “me” time or girl time away from your mate.  Everything you do does not have to revolve around him.

9.  Have a fulfilled life outside of the relationship.  A man wants to know that you can stand on your own two feet without him having to hold you up ALL the time.  Get a life and healthy hobbies outside of him.

10.  Your Money Management.  Are you a wasteful spender? Do you spend money you don’t have in order to keep up with the latest and greatest?  Believe it or not; even if a man does not do well in this area, he does not want a women who is wasteful in her spending.  This shows that she lacks discipline and self-control in the areas of spending and it normally holds true to other areas of her life.  Financial management says not only will you have plenty stored up for a rainy day, but you will not exhaust your income for the sake of status or because you spend on impulse. Being able to effectively manage your finances is one of the characteristics of a Proverbs 31 Women!

Stay Fabulous & Phenomenal,

Jill Bulluck