“Single Like Me”

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So I am almost 40 years old and I honestly never thought I would have made 40. Who knew?  Life is basically but a vapor at least that is what the Bible says in James 4:14. We are here for a moment and in that moment we must try to do what God has called and set aside for us to do. We must try to live this God given purpose out and pray that in the process we are living a life pleasing to God. In this journey we come across friends and love ones who lift us up and at other times, sadly to say, people bury us in doubt about who we are, but in this process we will come out either victorious or defeated. No matter where you are in life; old, young or somewhere in between, you have a common desire.  I believe we all have had that common desire to know where that special someone is; that person I am supposed to connect with. Men are looking for their ribs and women are looking for their rib cage. But not many are looking to God.  We are desperate to make a life with someone and we do it by any means necessary. 

Personally I have not had a serious steady relationship in my life.  Now, I am no virgin and my story, or should I say my testimony is very long, and being single never bothered me, but it was my “lot” in life. I accepted my singleness and I try to understand it, as I have always been an introvert. But while sitting in church on one Sunday morning, I felt a strong urge to write a book and to relay a message to the masses. The book is entitled the same as this blog: “Single Like Me!” Not being single and never needing or desiring marriage but “Single Like ME” meaning like Christ, not rushing but waiting on God to prune you into the individual who was ready to be ordained with the title husband or wife. Please note, I believe in marriage and if it is God's will for my life, I would love to be married and experience the ministry of marriage.  But I understand that neither marriage nor dating should be about the guy with the biggest bank account, the guy who falls all over me and makes me feel like I am above the world, nor is it sex or just curing the loneliness.

Marriage or the absence of being single is two hearts that beat as one desiring to grow in God to build a family with the common foundation being Jesus Christ.  Basically this means that you have both been baptized in Jesus name and have received the gift of the Holy Ghost and apart and together have a relationship with Jesus Christ. We are to seek God first and all good things will be added unto us, but we must seek God. So what are you doing during your singleness? How do you wait, when everyone has you convinced that you should already be on spouse number two? 

Just date unsaved people because they have a good heart and good intentions? Ignore warning signs from God and just hope you get it right, never mind the consequences that affect someone else’s immortal soul. 

These are questions I ask myself: Is dinner and a movie worth the blessings of God? While waiting, should I just dance with the devil and hope God’s grace covers me? Single Like Me; I pray will answer all these questions and more as I allow the Holy Ghost to lead me and direct me in writing and completing my book. I pray that in understanding the stages of singleness, it will produce more healthy and lasting marriages that build healthy productive children and a blessed union should Lord tarry.

P.S. Keep your eyes and hears peeled for the release of “Single Like Me”.

Single Like Him,

Demetria Jackson