Woman Love thyself! How to Accept Yourself? Video 1 of 4

Halle Barry and Beyoncé is what often come to mind when you think of beautiful successful woman.  Beauty, success and worthiness are the lies that are often said as to how you are defined as a woman.  I am not sure who or where exactly this rumor stemmed from, but somehow other people's personality, appearance, and communication has been pressed throughout the world and cause you to seek to desire to be a clone of someone else rather than embracing your own individuality.  

See I struggled with this myself.  I felt like if I was too goofy or silly that people would think I was immature.  When I often said something to other people, they would get offended; however, my verbal expressions were never intended to offend anyone. But rather than learning to express my authentic feelings to others in a more receptive way, I opt not say anything because I did not how to express myself verbally without offending others.   I voluntarily raised my hands and made a subconscious decision that it was more important for me to accommodate others and guard their feelings than it was for me to accommodate and love myself and guard my own feelings.  It seemed like this decision was made overnight but it took years for me to reverse this state of mind and being. 

I learned to triumph in the midst of adversity of self-acceptance (to overcome this mindset) By…

·         Put a stake in the ground and refused to conform to what other people wanted me to be.  

·         Refused to let society put me in a box of how I should look, speak or behave.

·         Refused to deny being true to myself over making other’s feel more comfortable around

           me.

·         Decided that being true to who I was and accepting and loving myself was so much more important than pretending to be someone I was not or just as bad as holding back who I was  due to fear that the other person would not accept me. 

Besides making these bold decisions, I also did 4 things that I will share with you and if you want to love and accept yourself for who you truly are, I challenge you to do the same thing.

1.)    Dispel the lies of your past!

The world will try to define you by your size, your height, you speech or whatever but you do not have to be or embrace what others have said about you.  Take what they said and make the opposite true.  For example when I was younger, I was often teased about my nose.  So much so I wanted to have surgery as soon as I became an adult.  But after a while I realized I never had a problem with my nose, it was other people who had a problem with my nose.  So I decided to embrace it after all, it was just as God had created me to be.

2.)    Write down all your positive attributes!

Take the negativity that others have said about you and what you have said about you and make the opposite true. So rather than replaying the negativity in my head, I would say I have a beautiful nose.  My nose is just like my dad’s nose and I love it! And when I see my nose I am reminded of my dad.

3.)    Declare who you are by God’s standard not the world standards!

God says you fearfully and wonderfully made in His image.  God said I know the thoughts I think toward you - thoughts to prosper you and not to harm you, to give you a hope for your future.

4.)    Take care!  Drink lots of water, reduce the sugar and bad carbohydrates (bread, pasta & soda), exercise, mediate, never stop learning and developing!

Indulge consistently in being your best self!  No I am not telling you to change yourself or to be someone you are not!  There is a different between growing and become more into your authentic self and changing or conforming to be someone you are not.  It is called evolving!

Take a stand and refuse to be stuck!  Take a stand, to commit to overcoming all the pain, hurt of your past, and the unforgiveness you carry in your heart and go grab your free copy of How to Triumph in the Mist of Adversity!

We love you so much! God loves you best, be blessed! 

~Jill of Jill and Treal