Today is your Day of Independence! (Stop Settling)

I remember a time in my life where I stayed or even entertained certain relationships because I didn't think I deserved any better. My mind and that quiet but forceful voice kept telling me that I would never have a fun, fulfilled and fruitful relationship because of my past.

I went in emotional and mental circles often because deep down, I knew what I deserved but I was afraid to say YES to it. I found myself settling in relationships, accepting what was given but not expecting anything more. I found myself emotionally trapped and mentally confused, not too mention very unhappy.

For a long time I believed the lies of others and myself to keep me from being emotionally and mentally available to receive more.  But oh when I came into the revelation of who God said I was and understood what I truly deserved, I made an independent and intentional decision to no longer settle.

I honestly believe that many women settle in relationships because they don’t feel as if they deserve better.  They give too much power to their past, old mindset, old behavior or even environment in making them believe that they have to accept and deal with love in any form it presents itself.

The downside or danger in this is WHEN you do discover who you be (intentional), stop believing the lies you were fed by others or yourself and diligently begin working toward being a better (authentic) version of you, you will begin to feel displaced in the relationship or marriage. That in turn leads to continued unhappiness and existing but not living. 

It will boil down to you playing the part in the relationship or marriage but eventually outgrowing your partner and desperately desiring to share space with someone you can connect with mentally, spiritually, emotional and otherwise but all the while remaining trapped. 

If this is your story and you know undoubtedly you need to FREE YOURSELF, here are 3 simple tips on your journey of becoming FREE!

1. KNOW WHO YOU ARE.  Don't allow past (decisions or relationships) keep you stuck or stagnant in your future.  Regardless of what you've done, the family or environment you grew up in/around or the relationship decisions you made in the past, you don't have to settle.

2. KNOW WHAT YOU DESERVE. Don't stay in a relationship because you are content with being uncomfortable and unhappy. Don't just deal with it and cope your way through it because at the end of the day; if you don't identify and accept who you are and what you deserve, you will remain stuck.

3. STOP PLAYING THE PART AND TAKE THE LEAD ROLE. It's your life and your decision. Choose wisely. Don't settle because of some benefit that may be prevalent in the relationship. Don't settle because of history, children, property or even family expectations. Free Yourself!!

Are you ready to Free Yourself but have no idea where to start? Have you tried coping or crying through it? Has fear paralyzed & crippled you to stay in a dead end relationship? If you answered yes to any of these, in whole or part, I encourage you to email me today at jillandtreal@detourmovement so I can support you on this journey.

Free Yourself,
Treal Ravenel
Life & Marriage Transformation Catalyst